After 5 years of being a stay-at-home mom, I found the wonder of mothering slowly starting to get crowded out by the mundane feeling. I realized our world seems to surround people with the negative, and complaining about blessings seems totally acceptable. So I decided to fight against that "normalcy" and focus only on the positive. I look back to my first year as a mom when everything was new and keeping house was fun and I aim to have that attitude again. This blog is my outlet to showcase the daily miracles that surround me in my blessed life as a stay-at-home mom so that I will never forget the wonder of it all.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

In My Humanness

I have been reading the blog Raising Arrows, and in it she had a post titled the same as mine where she talked about her struggle with the longings that come from being human, while still clinging to God and His plan.  I loved how raw, open, and honest she was in her post, and I wanted to share some of my raw self with you too.  I think its important to acknowledge the normalcy of grief, and share it. 

I am having one of my "hard nights" tonight.  They come about once a week and I grieve for my lost baby.  They always catch me off guard, but I always embrace them as it feels good to grieve.  The only thing I can do for our lost babe is grieve it, and remember.  So tonight, I do. 

In my humanness, I ACHE to feel a baby move inside me. 

In my humanness, I know how many weeks I'd be if I was still pregnant.  I know what stage of growth the baby would be at.  I don't need to read books to know what I'd be feeling and how the baby would have grown by now.  I've done it enough times that my body innately knows those milestones.  I grieve those milestone weeks passed and unmet.

In my humanness, I sometimes feel a sharp twinge when I'm counting heads at the park and feel like I'm missing someone even once I count to 3.  And then there in the park, it all floods back.

In my humanness, I love when my daughter asks again why the baby in my tummy died, because then I get to talk about it....acknowledge it.....know it was there.....know it happened.....say it existed.

In my humanness, hearing "you've got your hands full" for the umpteenth time feels a bit sad, as they really do feel emptier than I had expected.

In my humanness, I want to hear people ask when we plan to have more, like they asked after Logan was born, and like a few asked after Felicity was born.  This is the longest stretch we've had between babies but no one notices like when you only had one or two.  People assume you don't want more.  And I want more.

In my humanness, I long to be pregnant again.

In my humanness, I want it to happen this month.

God, forgive me for my humanness.  Forgive me for wanting.  Please help me to remain patient for Your perfect timing and Your perfect plan.  And thank you for so many daily reminders of the one forever in my heart.


  1. Thinking of you. The hardest for me after my miscarriage was when the lost baby's due date came and went. And, although Phoebe didn't make the pain of the lost baby go away completely, it has helped immensely. Once you have a new baby growing inside you, your focus will be on that new baby....

  2. I'm so sorry for your pain but am so grateful for your trust in God's timing. I'm honored to be your mom and privileged to be your children's Grammy. God knows the desires of your heart and I pray He answers you soon with another little one. But mostly, I thank God that you trust Him enough to let Him decide. Your quiet acceptance of His will for your life is an inspiration to many.

  3. Oh Jenny! I'm so so sorry for your loss! This is really heart breaking, and one day, you will bring so much (probably already have) comfort to another woman going through this.
    It's so good to meet you (I've been away since you left a comment on my blog). Thank-you for your encouragement, your comment came on a low day for me, when our family had received some hard news - and God used your comment to 'lift my head'!
    I pray that the God of all Comfort holds you now, and through this, and that you will smile at the days to come. Blessings!

  4. One of the hardest things for me was not really being able to talk about loseing our first two little ones. We had barely found out we were expecting when they were each were called home (two different times). I still cry when I think of them.I had my why God momments too but it was my faith that God had a purpose for all that had happened that carried me through. I can see that for you it is the same. Please know that when I think of you I say a prayer for you. I believe that God reminds us of people to give us the oppertunity to pray for them when they need that extra prayer. May Our Heavenly Father's Blessings and comfort pour down on you and your family.